I’ve had quite a bittersweet weekend this weekend, so this is probably going to be quite a long entry. Feel free to skip down your friends page to a more interesting one! Lol
I’ll start with the bad:
At the minute I’m living in a share house with thirteen other people. We all have our own rooms, then we share a kitchen, two bathrooms and a TV lounge. Last night, Adam and I were in the lounge watching TV when we were verbally attacked (it really feels as if there is no other word for it) by someone we share the house with.
Adam and I have been spending quite a lot of time in the TV room lately, as we are quite poor and during the week we prefer to stay in, cook dinner and relax after work. But apparently there are a couple of people in the house who have a problem with that. The guy, Greg, is arrogant, aggressive, racist, sexist and anti-gay, but despite that Adam and I have always overlooked that and been nice and friendly to him whenever we’re together, and the other person who doesn’t like us using the TV room is a Kiwi called Bonnie who is quite old and very bossy and controlling. So anyways, Adam and I are watching TV and he starts having a go at us because we are always in the TV room and we have bad attitudes and other people don’t feel like they can come in and watch TV with us, and he isn’t the only one who thinks so because Bonnie thinks so too. Forget the people who come in and do watch TV with us, because he and Bonnie have a problem that’s the only thing that matters.
I got really upset, because Adam and I are aware that we are in there a lot so if people come in and ask us if they can watch something else we always say yes, and we’re quite friendly (or so I thought!) and if people do come into the TV room and watch TV with us we are always nice and ask them how their day has been, or some other idle chit chat. What Greg was saying to us was horrible, and untrue in my opinion because with Greg especially, he is always the one to ask to watch something else and we do always say yes, even if we were wanting to watch something else (which was actually what had happened that night, Greg had come in to watch the Simpsons, which we weren’t planning on watching but did anyway). We chat to him a lot, and despite his obvious character flaws, I thought he was alright. To find out he had been bitching about us behind our backs really hurt me, and I’m pretty sure that it did Adam too although he hides it better than me.
Halfway through his rant, I started to cry and had to leave the room, I was so upset. Adam stayed in there and I could hear them arguing, then Greg left and went into the kitchen where Bonnie was and I could hear them talking about and laughing at us.
This morning, we were in the kitchen eating breakfast and Greg came in and he said “hi guys” to us but I just couldn’t say anything, then he said “Emma, I’m sorry if I hurt your feelings last night, that wasn’t my intention.” I kind of nodded and said okay, but I don’t think I can forgive him. I put so much energy into being nice and considerate of others, especially in a share house where people are always going to do your head in with something, and so when people turn around and just be horrible to me when I’ve tried so hard with them, I find it really hard to forgive and forget. Especially when I feel like it’s as unjust as I thought that was. What do you think? What would you do or say or feel if you were in my situation?
The good is that I had another lovely weekend this weekend. On Saturday, I baked shortbread for Adam (and didn’t eat hardly any of it!) and then we went out for dinner. On Sunday, we went into town and Adam bought me ‘Jamies Italy,’ a cookbook by Jamie Oliver for my birthday. Then we made the pizzas from it (which were delicious!) and went for a walk. We shared our pizzas with one of our housemates, Alex (the guy who I made a birthday cake for last weekend) and when I told him it was my birthday on Friday he said that he would take Adam and mines photograph for free, as he is a professional photographer, which I thought was really lovely. I guess it just goes to prove the saying about karma, and “what goes around, comes around” which is a nice thought, hopefully that means that Greg will get his karma back too!
I’ll start with the bad:
At the minute I’m living in a share house with thirteen other people. We all have our own rooms, then we share a kitchen, two bathrooms and a TV lounge. Last night, Adam and I were in the lounge watching TV when we were verbally attacked (it really feels as if there is no other word for it) by someone we share the house with.
Adam and I have been spending quite a lot of time in the TV room lately, as we are quite poor and during the week we prefer to stay in, cook dinner and relax after work. But apparently there are a couple of people in the house who have a problem with that. The guy, Greg, is arrogant, aggressive, racist, sexist and anti-gay, but despite that Adam and I have always overlooked that and been nice and friendly to him whenever we’re together, and the other person who doesn’t like us using the TV room is a Kiwi called Bonnie who is quite old and very bossy and controlling. So anyways, Adam and I are watching TV and he starts having a go at us because we are always in the TV room and we have bad attitudes and other people don’t feel like they can come in and watch TV with us, and he isn’t the only one who thinks so because Bonnie thinks so too. Forget the people who come in and do watch TV with us, because he and Bonnie have a problem that’s the only thing that matters.
I got really upset, because Adam and I are aware that we are in there a lot so if people come in and ask us if they can watch something else we always say yes, and we’re quite friendly (or so I thought!) and if people do come into the TV room and watch TV with us we are always nice and ask them how their day has been, or some other idle chit chat. What Greg was saying to us was horrible, and untrue in my opinion because with Greg especially, he is always the one to ask to watch something else and we do always say yes, even if we were wanting to watch something else (which was actually what had happened that night, Greg had come in to watch the Simpsons, which we weren’t planning on watching but did anyway). We chat to him a lot, and despite his obvious character flaws, I thought he was alright. To find out he had been bitching about us behind our backs really hurt me, and I’m pretty sure that it did Adam too although he hides it better than me.
Halfway through his rant, I started to cry and had to leave the room, I was so upset. Adam stayed in there and I could hear them arguing, then Greg left and went into the kitchen where Bonnie was and I could hear them talking about and laughing at us.
This morning, we were in the kitchen eating breakfast and Greg came in and he said “hi guys” to us but I just couldn’t say anything, then he said “Emma, I’m sorry if I hurt your feelings last night, that wasn’t my intention.” I kind of nodded and said okay, but I don’t think I can forgive him. I put so much energy into being nice and considerate of others, especially in a share house where people are always going to do your head in with something, and so when people turn around and just be horrible to me when I’ve tried so hard with them, I find it really hard to forgive and forget. Especially when I feel like it’s as unjust as I thought that was. What do you think? What would you do or say or feel if you were in my situation?
The good is that I had another lovely weekend this weekend. On Saturday, I baked shortbread for Adam (and didn’t eat hardly any of it!) and then we went out for dinner. On Sunday, we went into town and Adam bought me ‘Jamies Italy,’ a cookbook by Jamie Oliver for my birthday. Then we made the pizzas from it (which were delicious!) and went for a walk. We shared our pizzas with one of our housemates, Alex (the guy who I made a birthday cake for last weekend) and when I told him it was my birthday on Friday he said that he would take Adam and mines photograph for free, as he is a professional photographer, which I thought was really lovely. I guess it just goes to prove the saying about karma, and “what goes around, comes around” which is a nice thought, hopefully that means that Greg will get his karma back too!
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